I want to talk today about perspective and freaking out about things that, in the grand scheme of things, are either really minor or actually unimportant!!
I’m talking about stuff that I see on social media or hear in passing…even (and I’m sorry) complaints people voice to me. We all do it. Myself included. We need to turn this bus around people. This shit ain’t getting us anywhere but stressed the fuck out.
Since Kayla passed, I have been so much more sensitive to this in myself and others. It almost feels like a blasphemy to complain about little things because she isn’t here to be able to complain about this shit. It’s been eye opening for me for sure.
I’m talking about stuff like this:
- My package is late because of Covid
- My kids are driving me nuts
- A process changed at work
- There was traffic today
- I’m bored
- I can’t go out
- I have to wear a mask
- I am stuck at home
- I don’t think “blank” likes me
Get the picture? This shit will not matter to you in 1 year. Maybe even less time than that. To put THAT in perspective, look at your Facebook memories…most of them I look at now and go, wow, why did I need to post THAT?
So let’s put our heads together and think about this. How is complaining serving you? What are you gaining other than somewhat negative attention? We are wasting time and energy about this stuff. So here is MY take on the shifting our perspective and turning it around.
When I catch myself in this cycle, I have learned (thank YOU daily meditation and affirmations) to take a step back and breathe for a second. The meditation has taught me how to actually catch myself here. When I take that step back and breathe, I have an opportunity to ask myself why this is bothering me so much? And guess what? I can usually turn it around. So let’s refute the above complaints.
My package is late because of Covid: You’re lucky you can afford a package at all! Some people don’t have jobs and are struggling to put food on the table. That postal worker is probably run ragged delivering all this stuff. Your stuff will come, just later than you would LIKE. It’s a privilege to order things online and have them delivered directly to your door so you don’t have to expose yourself to potential harm.
A process changed at work: Suck it up buttercup…there are reasons things change and someone is paying us to follow the rules. We have a job. Someone out there in the world is likely wishing they were in your shoes.
My kids are driving me nuts: And one day, they will grow up and you will crave that insanity. The massive noise levels will one day become silence. Enjoy them while you can. I wish that I had spent more time playing and less time yelling.
There was traffic today: When you’re stuck in traffic, crank up the tunes, meditate, turn on that podcast or audio book you’ve been putting off. Enjoy some alone time if you’re by yourself. If you’re with someone, try and have a meaningful conversation. Remember-there could be a reason the universe has delayed you.
I’m bored/stuck at home/have to wear a mask/can’t go out: This is tough because we are mostly social beings. We need interaction and stimulation from others. This is a sacrifice we do need to make right now. There is opportunity to turn this into a positive: learn something new–create a new hobby, learn a new language, start a blog! What have you been putting off that you now have time for? The mask thing…my goodness just wear one. Nobody is taking away your rights for heavens sake. Respect others around you. Again, at least you are alive to complain about this. This must also mean you have good health (another blessing)
I don’t think blank likes me: Who cares???? There’s an expression “What other people think of you is none of your business” I wish I had cared less about this shit when I was younger. Such a time waster. If you love you, then BE you and nobody else matters!! Cut them loose and find your people!
Remember: There is always someone out there that is worse off than you. We are very entitled these days and I think we can all turn our perspectives around and worry about the big stuff instead.
Until next week!!