All this week I have been posting on my social media about what motivates us. I’ve talked alot about intrinsic vs extrinsic motivation.
Just to recap, intrinsic is the internal stuff: pride of a job well done, the need to just do it from the depth of your soul stuff. Extrinsic is the external stuff: the monetary reward dangling, the fear of letting someone down part of it all.
There’s tons of stuff out there about goal setting and if I’m being honest, it’s pretty standard. Think about what you want to accomplish and then set the goals. These are effective methods, however, the failure rate is high unless you figure out what truly motivates you. There is no right or wrong answer, because we are all individuals and what motivates me, will not likely motivate you.
So to really get deep down into this, and build a why that will be so strong, that nothing will get in your way of moving toward your goal when you think of it.
To get there, you need to take a few steps. First, think of what you want to accomplish and ask why. Let’s look at an example of how the discovery conversation could go:
Person: I want to lose weight
Person: I want to be healthy so I live a long time
Person: Well, I have kids and I want to be here with them
Person: What does that look like?
Person: It looks like me living to be 100 and being able to live on my own the entire time and play with my grandkids when they have them.
Person: Can you visualize that?
Person: Yes, I see myself, gray hair wrestling around with kids on the floor.
Person: Perfect, now let’s figure out how we will get there.
The point I am making: You need to keep asking why until you get to something deeper. Saying I want to lose weight isn’t specific enough, you need to go deeper. Just keep asking yourself why until you get to a point that you can come up with a specific goal. Then, once you’re there, write it down, make a vision board, something that you can see at all times. This will keep you focused and help you work toward that goal. It’s all within your grasp.
Try this method, and let me know. As always, I am here if you need help digging deeper!