It’s ok to be a quitter. I know that we are taught the opposite growing up, but I’m telling you now, that mindset is toxic.
Now let me clarify. I am not talking here about just giving up on something because it’s too hard, or painful or we just don’t wanna.
I am talking about quitting things when we know that something has run its course. Ending something that is no longer working for us because we listen to our gut, our intuition, however you want to put it.
Listening to your gut instinct, that’s huge.
It’s not the easy road, in fact it can be pretty freaking painful, but the end result is ALWAYS worth it.
So how do you know the difference between just giving up before it’s time and knowing it’s right?
That’s a tough question to answer.
I think it comes down to a lot of things. You need to ask yourself some tough questions and really sit and listen to the answers. I recommend sitting in meditation for a few minutes before digging in.
Once you’re in that calm and neutral state, ask yourself the following things:
- How is this situation serving me?
- If I stick with this situation, what do I see the outcome being?
- Is making a change worth the pain that the change could cause?
You can apply this to any situation really.
Romantic relationships, family, friends, jobs, careers..anything that you may be on the fence about.
Self reflection is a gift to yourself. Why would you want to short change your life?
I am only recently grasping this. I have been in so many situations in life for far too long simply because I didn’t love myself enough to make decisions FOR MY WELL BEING. I literally lived in order to make everyone else happy. Changing from that person to where I am today has taken me to a better place. A place where I’m not afraid to change, or speak my mind.
The situation recently for me was switching off a workout program that I was enjoying. It was actually detrimental to my health when I sat and asked myself those questions. And while it may seem like a totally trivial thing, it wasn’t to me.
As a Beachbody coach, the expectation is to try all the programs when they come out. My OCD brain says that means complete it. I want to know the programs so I can best serve my clients, But, what cost to myself was I really willing to accept? I was looking at quitting as a failure, when in reality in the grand scheme of things, I only have one body. That one body doesn’t give a shit about Beachbody clients.
It truly was an aha moment that, although I viewed it as quitting and a failure at first, it was me winning at life.
So, as I go off to do a workout for my mental and physical health, one that is best for MY body, I leave you with this:
What are you putting off quitting?