I went for a walk last weekend on one of my favorite trails. I had been really busy all week with work and was feeling suffocated from being inside all week. For me, when I feel like that (incidentally this works for EVERYONE-there have been studies) I hit the trail.
Well…it wasn’t the experience I was looking for. It was loud with kids running around and scaring off any chance of peace and bird/wildlife sightings. In hindsight, not the best choice of trails based on what I was looking for that day, as I know this one gets busy with families.
So as I was walking and the last family let their kids go screaming past me…I decided it was time for me to go home. I honestly was so frustrated and felt so angry because I didn’t get what I was looking for, so my mindset was actually worst than when I started.
As I was walking home, I thought about my anger. It was not justified. It’s a GOOD thing that families are out enjoying nature. Thank god they take their kids outside and let them run!!
And..it led me to thinking. Why am I so angry?
I was mad at myself. For getting annoyed. Because, I talk to people about positive mindset all the time. And if I do that, if someone saw how angry I was, would that impact their view of me? Would it discredit the mindset work and things I write to help people?
And these thoughts led me here.
Why are people resistant to mindset work?
They’re scared. Like me. They’re afraid of being judged when they have these moments. They think that if you embark on this journey to a positive mindset and kindness to others and meditating and affirming and doing all these things that you have to be like that all the time!!
And that is not humanly possible.
I’ve had people judge me for having a bad reaction to something. For getting angry in a moment where I could have had more patience.
That’s not the fault of the other person, it’s the fault of society. This perception of perfection. And it’s incredibly harmful.
When we do mindset work, it’s to LESSEN these instances of reactivity. It’s to teach you how to pause more often before you freak out. It is not to make you perfect all the time. You are HUMAN not a robot with no feelings.
This journey of mindset wellness has taught me so much about myself and I am so glad to be where I am today which is a huge improvement over where I have been.
I’m including today a recording I did that day talking about how I was feeling and all of this…please forgive the quality- I used my camera in the moment so it’s interesting 😂
Today I want to hear from you. Have you been afraid to embark on this work because you think you’ll need to be perfect once you start? Let me know!!
As always, I am here to assist you on your journey.