Tag: #whyblog #mentalhealth
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Setting Sail
Anyone that experiences a traumatic or significant loss has no choice but to alter the course they were on in life. True statement above. You are so forever changed that your old life dies with your loved one. That being said, sometimes we get stuck trying so hard to get back to how we were…
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Happy New Year
Good blessed morning! As I sit here at the start of this beautiful new year..this clean slate, this untouched blanket of snow..the birth of something new and great…I have spent the last 4 hours in mostly silent contemplation. Contemplating how far I have come. Reflecting on all the amazing lessons I have learned in the…
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My story and an invitation
Today’s blog post is actually a VLOG!! I wanted to explain where I am coming from and how I’ve crawled out of that mindset black hole. For Kayla’s story please click here https://www.cbc.ca/player/play/2080128579863/ Email me if you want to start this journey with me pattifarnan@gmail.com Xo Patti
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What is holding you back?
I went for a walk last weekend on one of my favorite trails. I had been really busy all week with work and was feeling suffocated from being inside all week. For me, when I feel like that (incidentally this works for EVERYONE-there have been studies) I hit the trail. Well…it wasn’t the experience I…
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Never too late
Have you ever really dug in to your heart to see what really lives there and fires you up? What will get you out of bed in the morning with no regrets..that makes you WANT to be here? I have been doing so much of that of late. Turns out, what sets my HEART ON…
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Purpose
Meditation has been pivotal in this journey towards healing, light and purpose. I have written about this before because it has been such a HUGE and amazing piece in that puzzle. Meditation puts my spirit back to that calm and rational place that we should all exist within but it also does so so much…
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Parental Grief from my Perspective
I’m going to tell my bereavement journey over the past 5 years. It’s what it’s like as a grieving parent from my perspective. I’m going to preface this with a few things..it doesn’t matter the age of your child, nor the type of relationship you had, nor how the child passed, you will experience some,…
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5 years
I’ll be honest. I never thought I would be able to live beyond the heartache of losing my daughter. I really didn’t think I would ever get to the level of peace and ok-ness that I am at either. In many ways, 5 years seems like yesterday and yet it’s also a lifetime. There has…
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Still Wending
It’s been a bit! I have not been in the best writing space lately. Alot has been contributing to this..the ongoing uncertainty of this pandemic is the big one. I have been letting some great practices slide, becoming complacent in my mindset. The last few weeks I have been growing increasingly fatigued and frustrated with…
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I love myself enough
I’ve been absent from the blog for a few weeks now…life’s been really busy, my mindset has not been in the best space to focus on writing. Today though, I had a bit of an epiphany. Today’s post is not as much about my grief journey as it is about mindset and about loving yourself…
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Gut Check
Things are starting to change again in the world at a rapid pace. Businesses are reopening, people are getting vaccinated, less people are sick and workplaces are preparing for employees to come back to work in person. All of this is long awaited and for many, very exciting. We all need to be around other…
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The Side Effects of Grief
There is no doubt that loss changes us. That fact is indisputable. The loss and resulting grief is and always will be there. And that is the same for every person in this world. No matter who you are, where you live, or what you believe, you will lose someone at some point in your…
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Your words and thoughts create your reality
I did a post this week on my social media after I had a big epiphany and I thought we should talk about it here because it was so incredibly powerful. I have been doing alot of self reflection type of work and working on loosening my grip on trying to be in control of…
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Someone out there loves you
This week, I want to cover something that happened this week that was absolutely awful. Trigger warning: this post talks about suicide and mental health. I’m part of many awesome online communities of strong women. Safe places where we can lift each other up in mental health, fitness, nutrition, all sorts of things. You end…
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Shifting Perspectives–Change your Mindset
Why does everything always happen to me? How does the above statement make you feel? It brings me down and makes me sad. It makes me feel or it implies that all bad things happen to this person and there is no escaping from it. It sounds dismal and negative. It sounds like a punishment…
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What a year!
This week marks the one year anniversary that a global pandemic was announced. We were sent home from work “for a few weeks” and we really thought it would all be over then. Here we are..the world indelibly changed: How we shop, how we work, how we socialize and even celebrate. Looking back, I didn’t…
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When Quitting is Actually Winning
It’s ok to be a quitter. I know that we are taught the opposite growing up, but I’m telling you now, that mindset is toxic. Now let me clarify. I am not talking here about just giving up on something because it’s too hard, or painful or we just don’t wanna. I am talking about…
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You can’t fix everything
A couple of weeks ago, I did a Facebook post on my page about a turkey that appeared out of nowhere in my neighbourhood. Turkeys are common in my area, however, this one is out of the ordinary as it’s alone, and has shown up in the city rather than a few kilometres up the…
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Control
The workout program I have been doing is called 9 Week Control Freak. It’s a great physical workout but it’s also strong in messaging about being in control of the things you can. It got me thinking a lot and I’m glad I am doing it because I think it’s needed by everyone given the…
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Emotions
Last week, I talked about this time of year and how it impacts me and my plan to help myself. I’m carrying out the plan and I’m doing ok, but it’s still hard and there are still so many emotions coming up. So that got me thinking about how society tends to look at people…
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January
I always loved January. It always felt so fresh and clean and new. It signalled a fresh start. A brand spanking new year of possibilities. I saw nothing but opportunity and positivity. When other people struggled with the January blues, I got my shit together and shone! Then, everything bad that could happen in a…
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Motivation
All this week I have been posting on my social media about what motivates us. I’ve talked alot about intrinsic vs extrinsic motivation. Just to recap, intrinsic is the internal stuff: pride of a job well done, the need to just do it from the depth of your soul stuff. Extrinsic is the external stuff:…
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How will you emerge?
It’s the end of 2020. The end of what’s been a very challenging year. We’ve been separated from family, friends, co-workers. People have lost jobs. Too many people have died. It’s just been alot to put it mildly. And now, as we head into a time of year that’s already very difficult for so many,…
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‘Tis the Season
This week is Christmas. In a pandemic. Here in Burlington, ON, we begin our second lockdown on Boxing Day. Right now indoor gatherings are capped at 5 and they’re asking us to only celebrate with our household. Christmas and holidays for a lot of us, is already HARD. Like really tough. Not because our grief…
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Self Shaming
This week I want to talk about self shaming because of things you see either on social media, in person or on tv. I have decided that that is just silliness. Getting caught up in the shaming has impacted how I run my side hustle, which is being a Beachbody coach. I LOVE being a…
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Mindset Growth and Lessons
I’ve been working on my mindset for quite some time, even before Kayla’s passing. I have completely changed as a person. I’ve come a really long way. From being a super submissive housewife in a terrible marriage who had such bad anxiety attacks I would leave the grocery cart in the middle of the grocery…
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Perspective
I want to talk today about perspective and freaking out about things that, in the grand scheme of things, are either really minor or actually unimportant!! I’m talking about stuff that I see on social media or hear in passing…even (and I’m sorry) complaints people voice to me. We all do it. Myself included. We…
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The stories we tell ourselves
Do you believe you are worthy of happy relationships? A fit and beautiful body? Wealth? Most of us will say yes, of course we do. But deep down do we really? Does your inner dialogue support this? I’m still working through You Can Heal Your Life by Louise Hay and it’s been giving me so…
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How we know we are making mental progress
I made a promise to myself when I started this blog that I wanted it to be 2 things: 1. True to myself and followers 2. That my words would help at least one person. I know I’m achieving the latter based on feedback and comments and that makes me so happy! This brings me…
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Thanksgiving Reflection
This past weekend was the Canadian Thanksgiving. It’s long been my favorite holiday. It’s a holiday with no monetary expectations. You hang out with family and friends, reflect on what you’re thankful for and eat a delicious meal. It’s right up my mindset alley. This year was different for many of us, we were missing…
Wending My Way 